Little things that money can't buy.

Am not just writing this because is the yuletide but,i just want you to understand,that the most important thing a human being can have in life, is the love of family.
You see as long as your alive,there is a lot you can strive to achieve,and while you think those things can give you happiness,you should also realize that,those things can actually disappear in a spark.
I was spending time with my family today,something i haven't done in a long while,and i realized that,upon all the joy i thought i had,nothing compared to seeing my parents and my siblings,all together smiling,laughing,and reminiscing on the good old days.
What i want you to do this Christmas,and am not actually asking,am pleading is,no matter what you think your parents did to you,and no matter how far you think you are from them,go and see them,and if your married go with your family.I know most people have unfinished business with their parents,some hold grudges,maybe because of what happened in the past,and you left in anger,and you never went back,i want you to take this holidays,to go back and seek reconciliation,because you may not realize this,but our parents won't be there forever,and the only time we have to spend with them is now,cos if you let them die sad,one day you will regret why you spent most of your life resenting them.
So no matter what,go back home,GARTH BROOKS said in one of his  songs "Just tell that someone that you love,just what you're thinking of,if tomorrow never comes" .So please do this today,cos you never know,tomorrow might be too late.
From all of us here,at "Juliansaid",i wanna say Merry Christmas,and a Happy New Year in Advance.

Did you know?

Now before you go ahead,i must warn you,what your about to read,may go against every thing you've ever known.
First of all lets picture this scenario;have you ever been in a relationship with someone,and all of a sudden,it seems like the god of good luck just fell on you?,and also have you ever started dating someone,and suddenly things,starts to get really rocky for you?,well today i want to answer all that for you.
You see every human being is created with his or her own different energy,it can be a good energy or a bad one.In real life,you meet lots of people,these people make a huge impact in your life,some of these people are friends,some of them are,acquaintances,and even lovers.
And in the case of love,we all know that we do not plan who we meet,and when to meet them,but the only thing that matters is Love,and when you love someone nothing can change your mind.These days before people fall in love,they check for a whole lot of things like;age,ethnicity,etc,some go as far as checking for gene compatibility,but we always forget spirituality,is just like science,if you have a bad energy,and you start dating,or you marry a person with bad energy,obviously your relationship will be having problems,either from quarrels,or financial instability,but if you have a bad energy and your dating someone with good energy,your luck will change for the better.
Remember true love conquers all,so no matter the kind of relationship your having,good or bad,if you truly love your partner,you gonna make it out.But the main idea for this post is to open your eye to the possibility,that maybe the reason your relationship took a different turn,might be because of the person your dating.So if your dating someone,and things are are going great,never let them go,and no matter what happens,always endeavor to make it right,but if your dating someone and even though you love each other yet things starts to get really bad,well you know what to do,always follow your heart.
And yes!,before i forget,don't ever think that if you start dating a rich guy or a rich woman,that your luck will change,no matter the kind of money they have,if you are not meant for each other,if your not compatible,that relationship or marriage will crumble sooner than later.
Anyway i hope what "juliansaid" today made sense,and i hope you believe it.

The just a friend,or bestie thingy,what you didn't know.

Ok i know most of you are well acquainted,with the "just a friend,or friend zone ish",i know is very annoying,i for one think is a sham,well as good as it must be for the "zoner",there is actually a down side to the whole shebang.
You see,human beings are mostly created differently,but 90% of humans have the same instincts,so is like asking a cat to coexist with a fish,it doesn't work,your just fighting the law of nature,and when mother nature bounces back,is always messy.
A girl cannot have a male best friend,that ish is not right,and likewise a guy cannot have a female best friend,that's like a cat and a fish situation,cause at the end,the cat will always eat the fish.
For men,having a female bestie or best friend,can actually work for a short period of time,because men got an over charged libido,so is hard for them to be just friends with a lady for a long time,without sexual relations.
And women on the other hand are pro's in friend zoning a man,but one thing about women is,they actually think that nothing sexual can happen between them and their so called bestie,cause they see him as a brother,and also a really good friend,but one day,after two or maybe four break ups,that bestie will start to look like a really good catch.
There are two things that can go wrong in this bestie relationship ish;

•  Heartbreak;you see for girls,heartbreak can really be an emotionally depressing thing,a trying time,and at this time the only shoulder a girl can cry on is that of the bestie,and if this happens repeatedly,one day,out sorrow,sex will happen,and you can't do anything to stop it,and neither will your bestie,because behind every male bestie,is a guy who is dreaming to maybe one day have sex with you.
• Expensive plays;sometimes you can play or,indulge in an expensive fun with your bestie,now if you ain't careful,if you lose control,casual sex can occur.

You see,sex can't happen between two best friends,because the moment that happens,they are no longer best friends,everything changes,so the real problem with the whole shebang is,after sex happens,maybe out of heartbreak,or even infatuation,there might be resentment from either one or both parties,or they will try to make it something more,because they just don't want it to be just a casual something,but the bottom line is,it will collapse,it will be a disastrous crash,the heartbreak will be huge,either for the girl or the guy,or sometimes even both parties,now who will you cry to?,who will console you?,you will end up depressed,cut out from the world,and you will swear never to trust a human being again.
That is why you don't play with the law of nature,don't make the opposite sex your best friend,stick to the normal status-quo,even if you don't see it as a problem,the person your actually dating might hate it,they may not tell you,it may be killing them inside,but i will tell you today to stop it,cause it has 10% rate of success.I have seen people die because of this,i have seen people go crazy because of the trauma.
You may think what am saying is bullshit,you may say is never gonna happen,but trust me the time is ticking,and when the problem starts happening,when that day finally comes,you will remember this post,and you will remember i told you so.
Anyway that's what "Juliansaid",and i hope it sunk in.

For real SM and SD CONTACT,and if your looking for real love,or a spouse,contact us today for a direct match.

Hello there,don't be shy,your at the right place,but really for you to stoop this low to come here for a match,it means your really desperate,it also means you ain't man enough to actually talk to a lady directly,well don't be ashamed,i know a lot of people that started out like you,shy to talk to a woman,but in time we cured them of that problem.
but what i want you to understand is,that the same way your shy,the ladies are shy too,so they just need you to man up,and approach them,because like a tiger to it's prey,girls or ladies can smell fear on a guy a mile away,that's why when you come,they can do anything to scare you,but if you stand your ground,and have that self confident,you can actually get the girl.
Well i don't wanna bore you with too much talk,so am just gonna leave this contacts here;so call this number,it doesn't matter if your a man or a woman,we are here to help you,we can actually help you to get your self confidence back,so that you can go out there and do the hustle yourself.
Email:Juliansaid007@gmail.com,and then call the number:08077674008.
And please most importantly,do not misuse this opportunity,cause this involves real people with real feelings.Thank you.

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If your crying that your girl left you,and your having suicidal tendencies,then you must read this.

Wait,hol up,this is so unbelievable,so your actually crying cos she dumped you?,wow am so ashamed of you right now,just stop drooling over yourself,is embarrassing,what i want you to do now is simple.
First go to a quiet place,a place where you will be alone,just make sure no one is seeing you,so that you won't be shy,now once you've done that,just keep your phone or laptop on the floor,kneel down and,put your right hand on your head let me pray for you,"Now any b**ch n***a spirit turning you into a retarded person,i destroy it,in Jesus name,Amen",now once you've prayed that prayer with me,i want you to sit down and listen very good.
85% of women around the world,are actually very much confused,that's why 60% of problems that occur in relationships,are actually caused by women,that's why the need you to keep telling them sweet things all the time,cause any day you stop,another guy can start telling them that same thing,and they will actually fall for them.
What am trying to tell you is,"if a girl is not meant for you,she will always leave you,it doesn't matter if your rich or poor,remember what happened early this year to ICE PRINCE ZAMANI,the Nigerian musician,it doesn't matter how much love you give to a woman,is never enough,most women,wants to make several mistakes before they learn,but only the wise ones make few mistakes,because they actually learn from the mistakes of others.
So i want you to snap out of it,for you to be this emotional,it means your a nice guy,all you need to do is stand up from that slumber,go out and make new friends,there's a whole lot of women out there waiting and praying to be loved,one day when your ex has made a whole lot of mistakes,she will realize,what a great mistake she made by leaving you.
I know you might say is not easy to move on but,What i want you to tell yourself everyday when you wake up is,"I AM  CHAMPION",this means your a winner,and is her loss for leaving you.
So get up and win champ!!!,cause winners don't roll with losers,"Juliansaid"so,and i hope it sunk in.

Tragedy:How this bride died on her wedding day.

It was a beautiful Saturday morning,the sky was blue and the grass was still green,and the weather was.....,well it was a cool day,and in her mind,nothing could spoil this day.But little did she know,that something really dangerous was gonna happen to her.It was a rich wedding,make up artists arrived,friends are gathering,then something happened that really shocked her,she saw her groom come out.................OK let me stop you right there,so you just came here to hear a sad story right?,why can't you be happy for someone?,how can a fine girl like this die?,and you just came to see,most of us just surf the internet just see a sad story,sometimes when you see a good story on a page or blog,you can just enter to read it,you might just learn a thing or two,some of us just want to see nude pictures or porn,that's why when you see a good story you just pass,sometimes just be positive minded.
Well is Christmas again,and i bet you all are excited,well i don't know about you,but am so happy,not only we get to see our loved ones,but we get to share love and happiness,and kisses under the mistletoe,i mostly enjoy the less work.
Anyway i just wanted to get your attention,to remind you that sometimes when you see a good news,or an important write-up,just click on it and read,it doesn't have to be porn or bad news.
And for this beautiful lady,i can't really remember her name but,i bet she had a wonderful wedding,which had happy ending.Well stay safe,and remember tiz a season to be jolly and happy,don't ever let anything or anybody bring you down.

Women's Odeal

Am writing this today with tears in my eyes,when i think about what our women face, in the hands of people who claim they love them,the hardships they go through.
Because of hard conditions,some women have been deceived into some bad situations,that ends up being detrimental to their lives.
Today i want to talk about women trafficking, if you don't know what this means,is simply women who are tricked,coerced,or most times forced into foreign countries,with the promise of a legit work,but instead they are forced into prostitution.
This women,in getting to these foreign lands,have their passports seized by the people who brought them,and until they feel satisfied that these women have paid their dues,they won't give their papers back to them,and when you are in a foreign land without your papers,your just worthless,but actually this in not even the problem,my issue is,what these women go through,before they even pay up their,so called "Madam's and Pimps". Most of these women get introduced,to some harmful drugs,or ecstasies,which they get totally addicted to,most of these unfortunate women,die of drug overdose,hunger,and even malaria,and worst of all when these women contract any kind of STD,they are tossed away,and in most cases they die of HIV & AIDS.
Upon all the adverts,and agencies put in place to cub this atrocity,many women still fall prey to this,but my question is,who is to blame?,the victim or the person that tricked them,to me i think is a 60-40% stuff,i think women this days are ruled by their insatiability,someone comes and makes a promise to take you to overseas,without you spending a dime,don't you know is too good to be true,can't you sense the scam in that?,most times they come as,modelling Agency,they tell you how beautiful you are,and how you will make tons of money overseas,and you agree without thinking twice.But why can't you work hard and make a living?,everyone is blessed with a talent,why don't you find yours and use it,stop going into things you don't know,if you really work hard and put your mind into it,you can actually send yourself abroad,because when this people come,they feed on your desperation,naivety and stupidity,cos they can't deceive a decent woman.
The only way to cob this,is to create awareness,and get enlightened,that's the only way we can stop these people from preying on us.
So am urging every woman to learn from the mistakes of others,when they come with their fake Agencies and fake promises,just say "NO",then be careful,about the places you go to,either for parties or any occasion,cos most times,women are kidnapped and sold out of the country,and also please i implore all citizens, to report any place you see or hear about women,being molested,trafficked or sexually abused.
Lets join hands together to fight this inhumane abuse of women,because together we can work miracles,"Juliansaid"so and i hope you believe it.

                                       This message is supported by UN WOMEN.

Cupid's Lamentations.

Love is dying,and it's our fault,we are all murderers.

Back in the old days,love was respected,feared and cherished.In the bible,"for God so loved the world,that he gave his only begotten son,to die for us,you can even see it in the story of Samson.first of all,we need to understand, the importance of love,

• Love can make the strongest of men weak,and it can make the hardest of hearts melt,

• Love can bring peace,both personally and also in the world,

• And we must understand that love is a beautiful thing.

St Augustine said that "love is the beauty of the soul,and Ghandi said that "love is life",this means that,"love is a sacred communion",it doesn't,care about the color of your skin or the type of job you do,or if your rich or poor,love doesn't discriminate, it visits everyone at the right time. But today we have killed love,with our lies,and deceit,with our infatuations,these days,before we dabble into a relationship, we first consider what we can gain,but what about love?,is either sexual benefit or financial,but again,"what about love?.

Young bloods of today are killing love,we now choose who to love,girls being disloyal,sleeping around for finance,guys having multiple lovers,sex craved.

When are we gonna stop and realize, that we are not even living,when are we gonna stop the lust.

When you go to bed today,ask yourself, why your in that relationship, is it because your afraid of being alone,or for financial or physical security,or just for the sexual pleasure,ask yourself if your in it for just fun,and at the same time,just for a minute, consider love. Khalil Gibran said that "Life without love is like a Tree without blossoms or fruits. Remember,If we live only for the things we want,one day,we are going to loose site of the things we need. "Juliansaid"so,and I hope it makes common sense.

Honesty

Most couples find it hard to be honest,they feel that, is actually a way of life,this has broken 80% of relationships today.
But then why do we lie?,why can't we say the truth,if we love our partners so much,why make them a fool with our dishonesty,cos when they find out they will feel betrayed,it won't cost anything to just say the truth,stop hiding things,cos the more you do,the more you push the other person away,instead of making your life and your relationship complicated, why don't you save it by being honest.
Honesty is important, it can build trust and understanding,if you can't be honest with your partner, then you don't deserve to be in a relationship, don't waste his or her time,most of us crave real love,and we can do anything to have it,only a psychopath can comfortably lie without remorse. So if you indulge in such act,I think you need to see a doctor. Life can be a whole lot berra if we take the path of truth,"Juliansaid"so,and I hope it made common sense.

Patience

Love makes the world go round,it keeps us alive,makes us whole,but then it hurts when you love someone and they don't love you back,it can be depressing,but I need to tell you,that this is one of the stuffs of life,all you gotta do is have patience, sometimes he or she needs time to understand their feelings,but with time they can get to realize how wonderful you are and they can love you,but if you wait and they don't come around, just leave them,cos is just bad to waste your good loving on someone who don't appreciate them.But no matter what always be happy cos that's the only thing that matters.

More About Life.

 Everyday a whole lot of us,worry about a whole lot of things,like,food,shelter,money,peace of mind,and we find ourselves being lost,with no direction,or purpose.
This life is hard,really hard,even the rich will still tell you the same,they say life is a race,a damn rat race,but where are we racing to?,why are we in a hurry?,these days good,guys end up in a bad place,with no love,no money,no joy,heartbroken each time they try to love again.Insatiable,most girls are really insatiable,one man ain't enough,one thing ain't enough,well i guess they are through daughters of eve.
Well am sorry if i sound a bit harsh and upfront but,i have a patient here,who is planning on committing,suicide.
Anyway,take ma word for it,don't take life too serious,stop racing in this life,if love fails,try again,never give up on the love you already have,unless is hurting you,we can only wish for the best,and let the universe decide.anyway that's what Juliansaid"in a bit.

More About Life.

 Everyday a whole lot of us,worry about a whole lot of things,like,food,shelter,money,peace of mind,and we find ourselves being lost,with no direction,or purpose.
This life is hard,really hard,even the rich will still tell you the same,they say life is a race,a damn rat race,but where are we racing to?,why are we in a hurry?,these days good,guys end up in a bad place,with no love,no money,no joy,heartbroken each time they try to love again.Insatiable,most girls are really insatiable,one man ain't enough,one thing ain't enough,well i guess they are through daughters of eve.
Well am sorry if i sound a bit harsh and upfront but,i have a patient here,who is planning on committing,suicide.
Anyway,take ma word for it,don't take life too serious,stop racing in this life,if love fails,try again,never give up on the love you already have,unless is hurting you,we can only wish for the best,and let the universe decide.anyway that's what Juliansaid"in a bit.

No Tomorrow.

Have something ever happened to you and you wished you had done something different?,the problem we are having today is that,we are too afraid of death,and what people will say about us,that we forget to live,we forget to do what makes us happy,a wise man once said,that unless we take a risk,we won't actually know our limits.
Is high time we care less about what people say,or about what we gonna loose,if you wanna love,love to the fullest,if you wanna party,do it to the fullest,if you wanna hate,do it to the fullest,and if you wanna work,don't hold yourself back,cos at the end,no one came into this life with you,even twin babies,comes out one after the other.
We don't know when our life,will come to an end,no matter how careful you are,something will one day kill a man,so everyday make peace with God and your fellow man,there may be heaven or hell,but what we know is,good people ends up in a happy place,while bad  people,well ends up in a worst place.
So don't hold back,don't waste your time chasing,what you may not have,life is easy,is only humans that make it complicated,so always let love lead,and your in for a happy life,because you never know,there may be "NO TOMORROW,and that's what "Juliansaid" today.

What every woman needs.

I know most of us men,think what a woman want is just a rich man,to take care of her every need,even some girls have grown up with such believes,well,while this might be partially true,i have made some researches,and i have deduced that what a woman needs,is just beyond money.

•   Firstly some women confuse themselves,thinking what they want is money,while really deep down,what they really need is,a man that can provide security and stability,and a real man can provide this,with or without money.
• Secondly,women need a man who can give them attention,even when they are misbehaving,someone who can make them number.1 no matter what.
• Sometimes they just need you to be a man,and scold them when they are doing wrong,cos if you pamper them too much they tend to feel you ain't man enough.
• women need appreciation no matter how small,they want you to praise them no matter what.
• Women just want a man that will be there for them,a caring person,a man who can say sorry even though he didn't do anything wrong.

I know sometimes is very hard to find a good woman,but if you can find a woman who doesn't care about,who you are,what you are,how you look,or what you can give her,just treat her right,cos a woman like that is a home builder.
Anyway that's all i got to say for now,stay safe,stay happy.''Juliansaid''so

Is Just Love.

Have you ever sat down one time to wonder,how you actually met your spouse,how you felt that day,maybe it was a rainy day,maybe you where in a train station,or at a wedding ceremony,have you ever thought how your life would have been,if you didn't go to the mall that day,would you have ever been this happy?,would you have ever met this wonderful person who changed your life?.
We don't choose who we fall in love with,or where we find love,but we know we are nothing without that one person who makes us smile.
Love is beautiful,it gives us extreme happiness;

Love is that feeling you have,that moment when you both know you wanna run away together,

that moment you find out that nothing works better if she's not around.Happiness is free,everyone deserves a bit of joy and gladness,everyone deserves to feel alive,you have the right to taste this heavenly enjoyment.

When you find that person that makes your your heart skip,you know you can do anything to make her smile,like;
hangout with him all day long,

thinking about her all day,or maybe acting all crazy when your together;

But then again,love has it's flaws,and no matter how happy you are,you know deep down it won't be all glamorous and dandy,because one day there will be arguments;

and some days you just can't stand each other;

But then you know is for better or worse,you both know that no matter how bad the situation is,even if the other person is dieing,you will always be there to support each other;

So don't let bad times destroy your lives,ride it out like a bad storm,let go of the past,because at the end,she's the only best friend you can ever have,and he's the best thing that has ever happened to you;

and deep down you know you wanna grow old together,spend forever with the only joy you've ever had;.

We don't know what life will bring our way,we don't know who the universe will send our way or when,but one thing is for sure,when you find your soul mate,you will just know, because there's this fire they will light up in you that will kick start your life,in a way you never knew is possible,in a way that no one has ever done before,it will just click.
So even if your single now,keep believing,even if your in a bad relationship,keep hoping,because true love is not searched,it's not seduced,it just finds you,so the question is,"how do you want it to find you?",in a good state or in a bad one".Anyway stay happy,and i pray you don't miss cupid or ignore him when he comes.

That's what "Juliansaid" today,and i hope you gonna believe it.

Why your relationships keep failing.

"Why is my relationships always failing?",i know most of us always ask this question every time we break up,and because of this singular issue,you've dated different kinds of people,trying to fix the problem,yet you keep hitting a wall,i know some of you ladies have been promised marriage by different men,yet when is almost time for the alter,he dumps you.You've acted hard to get,you've forced him to introduce you to his family,yet no hope,well,i would like you to look at this possible causes of relationship problems:

1. Secrets: you can't have a successful relationship if your always keeping secrets,not a lot of people love surprises,sometimes your partner just wants you to be free with them and open up,that's how they can trust to spend their entire life with you.
2. Lies: this is the main problem most of us have,we find it hard to be honest,some of us are even too bad at lying,that even when we are caught we continue to lie,how do you expect your partner to still stick with you,when he or she knows that,you just can't be honest.
3. Bragging: some people sometimes brag and claim what they are not,when they are about to ask out a new person,so at the long run,she/he may find out and that will be the end of it.
4. flirt: most of us really do not know our boundaries,when your in a relationship,you are expected to reduce the way you relate with the opposite sex,you can't be dating yet your still hanging out with the opposite sex the same way you did when you were single,learn to stick with your partner. 
5. Carelessness: some people starts to care less if they have gotten the girl or the guy,which might affect their partner,this can also cause an end.
6. Bad character: if you have a bad character,it will be hard for you to hide it for long,and that can actually cause a problem.
7. Respect: everyone deserves a little respect in a relationship,that might be why people keep leaving you,because you lack respect.

Now when you look at yourself,and notice that you have this problems,then am afraid is your fault that your relationships are failing,and i would suggest a change in character,stop lying,stop flirting,stop the secrets and try to care more.A relationship is like a plant,you have to nurture it,water it,care for it,because any day you loose your guard,is either outsiders trample on it,or it weeders and dies.But in some cases it might not be your fault,some girls are so much in love with material things these days,that they can leave any guy if the sense your broke,some guys on the other hand can leave a girl,if they realize that she won't give them sex.So if you find yourself in this situation,know that it isn't your fault,your just meeting the wrong people.
And then try to keep a good hygiene,dress well and classy,you might be getting dumped because you smell bad,or you don't go with the trend.Anyway if you would keep to these rules,am pretty sure your relationship, will be lasting longer than you ever imagined,that's what "Juliansaid",and i hope you gonna believe it.

Truth about Purgatory.

Today i want to direct your mind to an important matter,and i wish you would keep an open mind,am not here to make you change your believes,only to titivate your mind,i know many Christians have heard of this mysterious place called purgatory,in fact i believe,it was the roman catholic that conceived this doctrine,and according to them,it's believed that,purgatory is a place between heaven and hell,where some Christians undergo spiritual purification with fire,before they are allowed into heaven,and many Christians who are not Catholics now believe in it.

But the question is "is purgatory real?,or is it just a story told to the dying,to give them a peaceful exit.

When you read the bible to the end,you will find out that,there was no place in the holy book that purgatory was mentioned,i mean if it was really a place,someone would have talked about it in the bible,and the two recorded places after death in the bible,is Heaven and Hell.

But then i keep wondering,why would people believe in something that is not real?,it is said in the bible,that when we die,judgment follows,so this rightly means that,when you die,either you go to heaven or hell,so i believe some Christians should get their head straight,don't sin with the hope of,ending up in a place,where you will be purified,is either you go to heaven or hell,no second chances after death.

Sometimes being a christian does not mean you will be blind to an obvious reality,there is no place like purgatory,it is not an intermediate place after death,and it is not real,but as free humans,we deserve the right to believe in anything or any faith we choose.Everyday we live,is an opportunity from heaven to change our sinful ways,don't waste your time on this earth,believing in false doctrines or believes,no matter the religion,in this life we only have to believe in these:

1. Love God.
2. Love yourself
3. And love your fellow human being.

Anyway that's what "Juliansaid",and i hope you gonna believe it.

Gossip.

Today i want to talk about a matter that really affects everyone,and that's gossip.Yesterday i had a session with a couple,and the problem was that the wife heard something rather unspeakable about the husband and she didn't confirm from the him to really ascertain if the information she got was legit,instead she swung into action,they've almost called it quits,but i had to try and savage the situation.
But the question i keep asking is,why do people engage in gossip?,everyday rumor always had it,i mean why has it become a thing?,everybody talking about somebody,nobody minds there business anymore,some big blogs and websites now make a living with gossip,whether is the truth or not,nobody wants to know,they don't care who it hurts.I have seen relationships fail because of gossip,i have seen patients depressed because of it,people have died because of it,and this habit is mostly exhibited by women,even though this days some men are not left out,but i believe this dreadful habit should be curtailed,and this can be achieved if the people involved in this act,will actually engage themselves in meaningful endeavors,because laziness,nosiness, joblessness,have be denoted as the main causes.So please it won't cost you anything to really mind your business,involve yourself in exercise,or maybe try reading books,it will take your mind off boredom,and remove you from the temptation of gossiping,and it makes you less human if you talk behind someones back.So please get your head straight,get a job,and get a life.Anyway that's what "Juliansaid" and i hope you gonna believe it.

How to know your the Side Guy.

Ok i know majority of guys today don't care if they are side dudes,as long as they are getting their turn with the girl,so am writing this for the loyal guys out there who still believe in love.As much as there are side chicks,girls keep the most side dudes,but they just call them friends or besties,a girl can introduce two of her guys to each other like (hey baby meet my love or sweetheart meet my besty),the two unsuspecting guys will greet each other without knowing.These days some girls don't give their all in a relationship,because they feel that if the guy messes up they already got like bunch of guys waiting to take over.Anyway lets go over the little tips so you can know if your being played,

• Firstly she won't lock her phone,but if you go through it,you will never see any messages from guys, only girls,even her social media handles you won't see messages,i mean if she ain't flirting with them she would comfortably leave them because no beautiful girl stays a day without getting at least one shout out from a guy.But whenever you mistakenly see a text from another guy she would still tell you is just a guy disturbing her against her will.
• Because she has so many guys around she would never go for a stroll with you,she would always bring up excuses not to go out with you,because she wouldn't want to be caught off guard.
• She's always demanding things,remember any girl that loves demanding money or material things will never be loyal to one guy.
• She keeps ignoring some calls whenever she's with you,not because she doesn't want you guys disturbed,but she doesn't want to say the wrong things or pass the wrong message.
• She takes too many pictures with guys and when you ask her she will just say they are just besties,or just work,or course mates.
• She will never upload your picture in any of her social media platform,i mean if she's proud of you,she would flaunt you online and anywhere,cos that's how love works.But even if you force her,she will just write besty of life or she would write this new "i heart him so much",why can't she say 'i love you'.
• Finally she cares little about you,i mean you've noticed that she can go a day without calling or even beeping you,even when you know you can't.She doesn't even respect you,she will nag you all the time cos she not afraid to loose you,she will not even introduce you to her friends because your not the one,shes just using you to pass time.

So there are still more ways to spot a cheating flirt,but if you notice any of this behaviors is best you have a talk with her,or better still just end the the relationship.These days,because of material things some girls don't care what they do to their bodies,they don't care who they cheat on,no loyalty.But i think guys should be blamed too,i mean some of this guys will know that the girl is dating,yet they will still pursue her,and entice her with money,and because most girls are easily fooled,they will fall,some guys may stop caring for the girl like they used to,that may push the girls into cheating.Please lets maintain our boundaries,if a girl is dating just let her be,and ladies please if your dating just stick with your guy,and if you don't want him anymore just let him know you want to break up,is more safer and better than cheating on him.Anyway that's what "Juliansaid" and i hope you believe it.

Gender Equality.

Everyday at least 93% of women around the globe are being discriminated,especially in Africa.Through the years women have been made to undergo certain hardships like Rape,imprisonment,and even death.They are our Mothers,our Daughters and our Sisters.We've seen over the years that women have proved to be more resourceful than what we perceived of them,some giant strides today are mostly done by the women,We as men should stop looking to women as the week link,we should stop insinuating that women are only good as housewives or for procreation.Today we see women presidents,and queens leading and guiding a nation,even in Africa we have seen that women can actually contribute immensely to the development of the country.Our mothers make sure that we are protected and taking care of even in perilous situations.Please lets try and respect and care for our women,because without them we will be nothing.Lets support Gender Equality today,and give our women opportunity to show us that they can be a driving force to the movement and development of the world.

I am Julian Stanley,and i support Gender Equality.

Fighting Depression.

Now we've all heard about what happened to Tiwa Savage and her husband Tee Billz,now what am mainly concerned about was what happened to her husband,it was rumored that he went to commit suicide when he heard what the wife did,but luckily he was saved by some good friends,now that's a clear case of Severe depression,right there,Lionel Messi lost a penalty for the first time in the just concluded 2016 Copa America,and he said he is retiring from international football.Depression can lead you  into doing stupid and irrational things that you never thought you could do.
In fact some people have some different other ways they use to handle depression.But lets look at what really causes this condition:
Now there are lots of things that can induce depression;
A bad breakup,The loss of a loved one,Bullying,Bankruptcy,Maybe you failed in an exam,etc.
Actually any bad life situation can trigger depression and can leave the patient in the state of,
Sadness,Helplessness,the patient feels Worthless,Empty,Hopeless,Guilty,Angry and Ashamed.They start to loose interest in some things that once made them happy,start removing themselves from social activities,starts to feel alone,Starts overreacting,and so on,from that moment their problems starts to overwhelm them,and they start indulging in things like:

• Alcohol: patient feels that the only way to forget about the problems is by getting drunk.
• Over eating: patient starts having eating disorders,which can be very destructive to the body,this situation can still be the opposite.
• Suicide: as you all may well know some people just don't handle bad times very well,so they feel the only way to ease their pain is to just die and rest.
• Murder tendencies,Insomnia and so on.

There are mild and severe depressions,but in any case this condition shouldn't be taking lightly,there are some ways it can be treated,clinical and non clinical ways,but the patient is advised to see a propfessional Psychiatrist who can actually ex-ermine them and give a proper prescribed anti depressant drugs,self medication is strictly prohibited,there are other measures like joining a support group of people with the same condition,or you can start to mingle,you can meet new people who can actually change your life.We know Life is not easy,there is always two sides of a coin,and sometimes we encounter some events that can really shake us emotionally,so is ok to feel sad and responsible,but don't let it control your life,don't let it ruin you.The greatest people in the world are the ones that always rise up whenever they fall.Be happy and remember in life we only live to learn.
Anyway don't forget to contact us through our email if you need someone to talk to,remember the first step to healing is acceptance,and when you can accept that you have a problem that is when a solution can be attained.

Some defects of Friend zoning.

Guys will always understand this situation better,the reason is simple,men can easily turn on their feelings towards a woman but women can't.A guy can be friends with a girl for as long as two days and he has already started plans on how to woo her,unless he's already dating,but if a woman ain't feeling you she can be friends with you as long as two to even ten years without remorse or even caring to know how your feeling about her, that's why is said that if a man cheats it can be understandable because men can easily get aroused,but if a woman cheats,it's intentionally premeditated,because a woman's feelings are not easily aroused unless she is really feeling you.Some girls go as far as telling the guy that she only sees him as a brother.
But the friend zone can really be emotionally destructive to some guys,they can't stand being just friends with a girl they love while shes busy dating other guys.These are some mishaps that can happen because of the friend zone:

1. A friend zoned guy can die because of the emotional trauma caused by the girl,and this is worse because this girl will never see him in a romantic way.
2. A friend zoned guy can start hatching evil plans for the girl,he may arrange for her to be raped.
3. He may kill her because he believes if he can't have her no one should.
4. Finally sometimes the guys the girl is dating might stand the risk of being in danger, because the friend zoned guy might harm them.

These are the ones i could come up with,the friend zone doesn't happen with girls only a guy can still friend zone a girl but is won't be as destructive as a friend zoned guy,but the bottom line is no one likes to be just a friend,and if you look at it from any angle,the friend zone is a bad place to be,and girls really need to be careful cos you don't know who you might hurt,you always complain that guys are heartless for breaking your heart but what about those guys you have comfortably friend zoned because you feel they are not your type,don't you know your breaking their heart.And guys please sometimes just tell her because you never know she might start noticing you romantically,everyone's feelings matter.So before you become friends with that new guy be sure of what he really wants and don't lead him on.Anyway that's what "Juliansaid" and i hope you gonna believe it.

Julian Said: The ideal woman that men love to marry.

Julian Said: The ideal woman that men love to marry.: Ok first of all a real man knows the kinda woman he wants and can see through any woman no matter how hard she tries to hide her true charac...

Julian Said: How to know your the side chick.

Julian Said: How to know your the side chick.: Am sure every girl would wanna know this,but the truth is,deep down every girl knows her place in a man's life,but some of them sometime...

How to know your the side chick.

Am sure every girl would wanna know this,but the truth is,deep down every girl knows her place in a man's life,but some of them sometimes choose to be blind,and also because of material things a lot of girls make themselves side chicks.When your chasing a married man because of money,do you expect him to leave his wife and children for you?,or when you leave your boyfriend and starts to chase after another dude cos he has money,do you think he will be faithful?,i mean he already knows your there because of his money.
Anyway here are some little tips you should look out for:

• First of all he locks his phone and when ever you ask him to unlock it he will come up with excuses,so you already know if he has nothing to hide he wouldn't hide his phone from you.
• Some guys won't introduce you to his friends or even family,cos they know your not the main one,even when you meet their friends they will find a way to make it snappy.
• He always wanna meet you in his house but wont wanna take you to any popular places,or even take a street stroll with you.
• He will never upload your pictures online,but when he does is either is your birthday or you forced him,and when you persuade him to put it,he may just write words like "i heart her so much" or "besty of life", i mean if your the main chick he would definitely say "I love you".
• He wont call you much or even care much but be rest assured he will always give you money and buy you expensive things to make up for it.
• He receives too many female calls and when you ask him he would say is just work colleagues,or if he's a student he would always say is just his course mates.
• And finally when ever you guys argue he gets mad at you and scolds you like he's not afraid to loose you,at the end you will still have to say sorry.

Sometimes some men act differently to their side chicks,all you have to do is simple,start noticing the signs, don't let the money or the good looks blind you,at the end you will end up alone and booted because even if he breaks up with his main chick you will never be promoted,he will always find another person.every woman deserves respect so unless you've lost your self esteem don't let the men fool you.Anyway before you make a mess of your life ask yourself this "what would Julian say"?.

The ideal woman that men love to marry.

Ok first of all a real man knows the kinda woman he wants and can see through any woman no matter how hard she tries to hide her true character,so am not here to change your views of your kind of woman but just to solidify your believes.
And ladies you all are beautiful but if your character ain't on this list it means you have an ample opportunity to change your ways for the better,a guy can party with you,give you all the money you want,buy you everything you want,take you everywhere you wanna go,introduce you to his friends,but will never marry you,because you've portrayed yourself as a girlfriend material but not a wife.anyway lets go over the list:

• Intelligent woman: beauty is good but if your a dummy no man will wanna marry you,they will only want to date and sleep with you cos you look good.A man wants a girl who is really smart and intellectually intelligent,who can really impact good knowledge to the children and can keep a safe house,a woman who doesn't depend only on the man to build a home.But mind you some men may find this kinda woman intimidating.
• An Honest woman: men love women who are genuinely honest,who loves them truly,who can stick with them no matter the situation rich or poor,a woman who can support them,and not a materialistic  woman who lie a lot and keep secrets.
• Hard to get: i know many girls play this game,even though some men these days hate it,because even if she agrees quickly or late, if shes got an ugly heart is not gonna last.but some men still find it adorable.
• Wonderful woman: men love a woman who is willing to invest in them financially,this woman believes in their dreams and can really do anything to make them achieve their goals,men know that they can move mountains for them so they will always want to keep them as a wife.So if your in a relationship and you haven't invested in your guys dreams am sorry your dulling cos if he ever makes it big he will surely give you the booth. 
• Dedicated woman: contrary to what some women believe Real men are always dedicated to their woman,so if you want him to marry you,you have to be genuinely dedicated as well,you don't have to depend only on him to be the spender cos that shows how shallow you are,and remember men hate shallow women,so you gotta be smart and make your own input to the development of the relationship.
• Morally intact: men hate a loose woman, a flirt,a woman who has too many male friends,you don't expect a man to trust you when you keep a lot of men around,he will be too afraid to travel with you at home,and men hate that,so these means he can't even have his friends over or introduce you to any of his friends.Some men even see such women as insatiable which means your still searching,he wants to know that you got eyes only for him.Also you must know how to cook,cos is the secret to a man's heart,some women these days rely too much on fast food that they can't even cook,so if he notices that you can't cook that can really be a huge turn off.
• Religious woman: a real man knows that only a religious woman can really know how to make a good home,a woman who can give him a good advice,a woman who can actually be respectful and can teach the children real home values.a woman who can be his second mother cos men love to be mothered.
• Classy woman: men love a woman with class and not a cheap girl,a woman who dresses moderately and not one who dresses like a harlot,a presentable woman who he can introduce to his family and friends,a woman who can actually decorate and clean the house beautifully,not a dirty girl.So ladies please keep a good hygiene.

Anyway that's all for now, and really i hope you would read and learn a thing or two,is not too hard to live a principled life,because what ever life we are living today will be passed on to our future children,so lets set a good example today.And before you make that mistake ask yourself this 'what would "Julian say"?.

The art of Deception.

Everyone lies at least 3 or 4 times each day unless maybe your a monk,have always wondered what the first person that discovered the "LIE" was actually thinking about,before he got the idea to deceive,maybe he was a politician,but am very much confident he or she was a psychopath,oh wait!! you didn't know that if you can lie your a psycho?,well actually if you read my earlier article on Psychopaths you would understand that only a psycho can deceive another human being without remorse,people lie today just to get ahead,a musician will tell you she started writing songs when she was four and am like really!! have you even started talking well at four.
 do you know that Lies can kill?,when you lied against a man in court and he gets hanged,or taking to the electric chair,or maybe when you betray a friend and he or she dies of hurt.
In relationships today deception is now the main vibe,a woman can't even tell the man honestly where she been,who she been chilling with,or what she really wanna do with the money you gave her,even the men well don't get me started on the men,over the years some people have made lying a profession (Lawyers) and (Politicians),
But there are still some lies that can save a life,you can see that in a woman who has cancer who knows she barely got two months to live but tells her 4 year old son that shes gonna live forever,or when the doctor knows your wife is gonna undergo a big critical operation but tells you not to worry that shes got a minor situation,it's said that with great power comes great responsibility,yes!! lying is power,it can make two big nations go to war and can also install peace,it can make a poor man rich in fact 80 to 85% of men today made their money through deception,lies can kill and can also save lives,so we choose what we do with this power,and please if you must lie to your partner make sure is for a good reason and make sure they won't find out,lies begets more lies,but i will suggest you tell them the truth cos no one deserves to be deceived,stay true to yourself because some people lie so much that they forget who they really are,and if you don't feel good being honest then you have a problem and should book a session with a trained psychiatrist,anyway that's all for now and to be honest that's what "Juliansaid" and i hope you gonna believe it.