Is Just Love.

Have you ever sat down one time to wonder,how you actually met your spouse,how you felt that day,maybe it was a rainy day,maybe you where in a train station,or at a wedding ceremony,have you ever thought how your life would have been,if you didn't go to the mall that day,would you have ever been this happy?,would you have ever met this wonderful person who changed your life?.
We don't choose who we fall in love with,or where we find love,but we know we are nothing without that one person who makes us smile.
Love is beautiful,it gives us extreme happiness;

Love is that feeling you have,that moment when you both know you wanna run away together,

that moment you find out that nothing works better if she's not around.Happiness is free,everyone deserves a bit of joy and gladness,everyone deserves to feel alive,you have the right to taste this heavenly enjoyment.

When you find that person that makes your your heart skip,you know you can do anything to make her smile,like;
hangout with him all day long,

thinking about her all day,or maybe acting all crazy when your together;

But then again,love has it's flaws,and no matter how happy you are,you know deep down it won't be all glamorous and dandy,because one day there will be arguments;

and some days you just can't stand each other;

But then you know is for better or worse,you both know that no matter how bad the situation is,even if the other person is dieing,you will always be there to support each other;

So don't let bad times destroy your lives,ride it out like a bad storm,let go of the past,because at the end,she's the only best friend you can ever have,and he's the best thing that has ever happened to you;

and deep down you know you wanna grow old together,spend forever with the only joy you've ever had;.

We don't know what life will bring our way,we don't know who the universe will send our way or when,but one thing is for sure,when you find your soul mate,you will just know, because there's this fire they will light up in you that will kick start your life,in a way you never knew is possible,in a way that no one has ever done before,it will just click.
So even if your single now,keep believing,even if your in a bad relationship,keep hoping,because true love is not searched,it's not seduced,it just finds you,so the question is,"how do you want it to find you?",in a good state or in a bad one".Anyway stay happy,and i pray you don't miss cupid or ignore him when he comes.

That's what "Juliansaid" today,and i hope you gonna believe it.

Why your relationships keep failing.

"Why is my relationships always failing?",i know most of us always ask this question every time we break up,and because of this singular issue,you've dated different kinds of people,trying to fix the problem,yet you keep hitting a wall,i know some of you ladies have been promised marriage by different men,yet when is almost time for the alter,he dumps you.You've acted hard to get,you've forced him to introduce you to his family,yet no hope,well,i would like you to look at this possible causes of relationship problems:

1. Secrets: you can't have a successful relationship if your always keeping secrets,not a lot of people love surprises,sometimes your partner just wants you to be free with them and open up,that's how they can trust to spend their entire life with you.
2. Lies: this is the main problem most of us have,we find it hard to be honest,some of us are even too bad at lying,that even when we are caught we continue to lie,how do you expect your partner to still stick with you,when he or she knows that,you just can't be honest.
3. Bragging: some people sometimes brag and claim what they are not,when they are about to ask out a new person,so at the long run,she/he may find out and that will be the end of it.
4. flirt: most of us really do not know our boundaries,when your in a relationship,you are expected to reduce the way you relate with the opposite sex,you can't be dating yet your still hanging out with the opposite sex the same way you did when you were single,learn to stick with your partner. 
5. Carelessness: some people starts to care less if they have gotten the girl or the guy,which might affect their partner,this can also cause an end.
6. Bad character: if you have a bad character,it will be hard for you to hide it for long,and that can actually cause a problem.
7. Respect: everyone deserves a little respect in a relationship,that might be why people keep leaving you,because you lack respect.

Now when you look at yourself,and notice that you have this problems,then am afraid is your fault that your relationships are failing,and i would suggest a change in character,stop lying,stop flirting,stop the secrets and try to care more.A relationship is like a plant,you have to nurture it,water it,care for it,because any day you loose your guard,is either outsiders trample on it,or it weeders and dies.But in some cases it might not be your fault,some girls are so much in love with material things these days,that they can leave any guy if the sense your broke,some guys on the other hand can leave a girl,if they realize that she won't give them sex.So if you find yourself in this situation,know that it isn't your fault,your just meeting the wrong people.
And then try to keep a good hygiene,dress well and classy,you might be getting dumped because you smell bad,or you don't go with the trend.Anyway if you would keep to these rules,am pretty sure your relationship, will be lasting longer than you ever imagined,that's what "Juliansaid",and i hope you gonna believe it.

Truth about Purgatory.

Today i want to direct your mind to an important matter,and i wish you would keep an open mind,am not here to make you change your believes,only to titivate your mind,i know many Christians have heard of this mysterious place called purgatory,in fact i believe,it was the roman catholic that conceived this doctrine,and according to them,it's believed that,purgatory is a place between heaven and hell,where some Christians undergo spiritual purification with fire,before they are allowed into heaven,and many Christians who are not Catholics now believe in it.

But the question is "is purgatory real?,or is it just a story told to the dying,to give them a peaceful exit.

When you read the bible to the end,you will find out that,there was no place in the holy book that purgatory was mentioned,i mean if it was really a place,someone would have talked about it in the bible,and the two recorded places after death in the bible,is Heaven and Hell.

But then i keep wondering,why would people believe in something that is not real?,it is said in the bible,that when we die,judgment follows,so this rightly means that,when you die,either you go to heaven or hell,so i believe some Christians should get their head straight,don't sin with the hope of,ending up in a place,where you will be purified,is either you go to heaven or hell,no second chances after death.

Sometimes being a christian does not mean you will be blind to an obvious reality,there is no place like purgatory,it is not an intermediate place after death,and it is not real,but as free humans,we deserve the right to believe in anything or any faith we choose.Everyday we live,is an opportunity from heaven to change our sinful ways,don't waste your time on this earth,believing in false doctrines or believes,no matter the religion,in this life we only have to believe in these:

1. Love God.
2. Love yourself
3. And love your fellow human being.

Anyway that's what "Juliansaid",and i hope you gonna believe it.

Gossip.

Today i want to talk about a matter that really affects everyone,and that's gossip.Yesterday i had a session with a couple,and the problem was that the wife heard something rather unspeakable about the husband and she didn't confirm from the him to really ascertain if the information she got was legit,instead she swung into action,they've almost called it quits,but i had to try and savage the situation.
But the question i keep asking is,why do people engage in gossip?,everyday rumor always had it,i mean why has it become a thing?,everybody talking about somebody,nobody minds there business anymore,some big blogs and websites now make a living with gossip,whether is the truth or not,nobody wants to know,they don't care who it hurts.I have seen relationships fail because of gossip,i have seen patients depressed because of it,people have died because of it,and this habit is mostly exhibited by women,even though this days some men are not left out,but i believe this dreadful habit should be curtailed,and this can be achieved if the people involved in this act,will actually engage themselves in meaningful endeavors,because laziness,nosiness, joblessness,have be denoted as the main causes.So please it won't cost you anything to really mind your business,involve yourself in exercise,or maybe try reading books,it will take your mind off boredom,and remove you from the temptation of gossiping,and it makes you less human if you talk behind someones back.So please get your head straight,get a job,and get a life.Anyway that's what "Juliansaid" and i hope you gonna believe it.

How to know your the Side Guy.

Ok i know majority of guys today don't care if they are side dudes,as long as they are getting their turn with the girl,so am writing this for the loyal guys out there who still believe in love.As much as there are side chicks,girls keep the most side dudes,but they just call them friends or besties,a girl can introduce two of her guys to each other like (hey baby meet my love or sweetheart meet my besty),the two unsuspecting guys will greet each other without knowing.These days some girls don't give their all in a relationship,because they feel that if the guy messes up they already got like bunch of guys waiting to take over.Anyway lets go over the little tips so you can know if your being played,

• Firstly she won't lock her phone,but if you go through it,you will never see any messages from guys, only girls,even her social media handles you won't see messages,i mean if she ain't flirting with them she would comfortably leave them because no beautiful girl stays a day without getting at least one shout out from a guy.But whenever you mistakenly see a text from another guy she would still tell you is just a guy disturbing her against her will.
• Because she has so many guys around she would never go for a stroll with you,she would always bring up excuses not to go out with you,because she wouldn't want to be caught off guard.
• She's always demanding things,remember any girl that loves demanding money or material things will never be loyal to one guy.
• She keeps ignoring some calls whenever she's with you,not because she doesn't want you guys disturbed,but she doesn't want to say the wrong things or pass the wrong message.
• She takes too many pictures with guys and when you ask her she will just say they are just besties,or just work,or course mates.
• She will never upload your picture in any of her social media platform,i mean if she's proud of you,she would flaunt you online and anywhere,cos that's how love works.But even if you force her,she will just write besty of life or she would write this new "i heart him so much",why can't she say 'i love you'.
• Finally she cares little about you,i mean you've noticed that she can go a day without calling or even beeping you,even when you know you can't.She doesn't even respect you,she will nag you all the time cos she not afraid to loose you,she will not even introduce you to her friends because your not the one,shes just using you to pass time.

So there are still more ways to spot a cheating flirt,but if you notice any of this behaviors is best you have a talk with her,or better still just end the the relationship.These days,because of material things some girls don't care what they do to their bodies,they don't care who they cheat on,no loyalty.But i think guys should be blamed too,i mean some of this guys will know that the girl is dating,yet they will still pursue her,and entice her with money,and because most girls are easily fooled,they will fall,some guys may stop caring for the girl like they used to,that may push the girls into cheating.Please lets maintain our boundaries,if a girl is dating just let her be,and ladies please if your dating just stick with your guy,and if you don't want him anymore just let him know you want to break up,is more safer and better than cheating on him.Anyway that's what "Juliansaid" and i hope you believe it.

Gender Equality.

Everyday at least 93% of women around the globe are being discriminated,especially in Africa.Through the years women have been made to undergo certain hardships like Rape,imprisonment,and even death.They are our Mothers,our Daughters and our Sisters.We've seen over the years that women have proved to be more resourceful than what we perceived of them,some giant strides today are mostly done by the women,We as men should stop looking to women as the week link,we should stop insinuating that women are only good as housewives or for procreation.Today we see women presidents,and queens leading and guiding a nation,even in Africa we have seen that women can actually contribute immensely to the development of the country.Our mothers make sure that we are protected and taking care of even in perilous situations.Please lets try and respect and care for our women,because without them we will be nothing.Lets support Gender Equality today,and give our women opportunity to show us that they can be a driving force to the movement and development of the world.

I am Julian Stanley,and i support Gender Equality.

Fighting Depression.

Now we've all heard about what happened to Tiwa Savage and her husband Tee Billz,now what am mainly concerned about was what happened to her husband,it was rumored that he went to commit suicide when he heard what the wife did,but luckily he was saved by some good friends,now that's a clear case of Severe depression,right there,Lionel Messi lost a penalty for the first time in the just concluded 2016 Copa America,and he said he is retiring from international football.Depression can lead you  into doing stupid and irrational things that you never thought you could do.
In fact some people have some different other ways they use to handle depression.But lets look at what really causes this condition:
Now there are lots of things that can induce depression;
A bad breakup,The loss of a loved one,Bullying,Bankruptcy,Maybe you failed in an exam,etc.
Actually any bad life situation can trigger depression and can leave the patient in the state of,
Sadness,Helplessness,the patient feels Worthless,Empty,Hopeless,Guilty,Angry and Ashamed.They start to loose interest in some things that once made them happy,start removing themselves from social activities,starts to feel alone,Starts overreacting,and so on,from that moment their problems starts to overwhelm them,and they start indulging in things like:

• Alcohol: patient feels that the only way to forget about the problems is by getting drunk.
• Over eating: patient starts having eating disorders,which can be very destructive to the body,this situation can still be the opposite.
• Suicide: as you all may well know some people just don't handle bad times very well,so they feel the only way to ease their pain is to just die and rest.
• Murder tendencies,Insomnia and so on.

There are mild and severe depressions,but in any case this condition shouldn't be taking lightly,there are some ways it can be treated,clinical and non clinical ways,but the patient is advised to see a propfessional Psychiatrist who can actually ex-ermine them and give a proper prescribed anti depressant drugs,self medication is strictly prohibited,there are other measures like joining a support group of people with the same condition,or you can start to mingle,you can meet new people who can actually change your life.We know Life is not easy,there is always two sides of a coin,and sometimes we encounter some events that can really shake us emotionally,so is ok to feel sad and responsible,but don't let it control your life,don't let it ruin you.The greatest people in the world are the ones that always rise up whenever they fall.Be happy and remember in life we only live to learn.
Anyway don't forget to contact us through our email if you need someone to talk to,remember the first step to healing is acceptance,and when you can accept that you have a problem that is when a solution can be attained.

Some defects of Friend zoning.

Guys will always understand this situation better,the reason is simple,men can easily turn on their feelings towards a woman but women can't.A guy can be friends with a girl for as long as two days and he has already started plans on how to woo her,unless he's already dating,but if a woman ain't feeling you she can be friends with you as long as two to even ten years without remorse or even caring to know how your feeling about her, that's why is said that if a man cheats it can be understandable because men can easily get aroused,but if a woman cheats,it's intentionally premeditated,because a woman's feelings are not easily aroused unless she is really feeling you.Some girls go as far as telling the guy that she only sees him as a brother.
But the friend zone can really be emotionally destructive to some guys,they can't stand being just friends with a girl they love while shes busy dating other guys.These are some mishaps that can happen because of the friend zone:

1. A friend zoned guy can die because of the emotional trauma caused by the girl,and this is worse because this girl will never see him in a romantic way.
2. A friend zoned guy can start hatching evil plans for the girl,he may arrange for her to be raped.
3. He may kill her because he believes if he can't have her no one should.
4. Finally sometimes the guys the girl is dating might stand the risk of being in danger, because the friend zoned guy might harm them.

These are the ones i could come up with,the friend zone doesn't happen with girls only a guy can still friend zone a girl but is won't be as destructive as a friend zoned guy,but the bottom line is no one likes to be just a friend,and if you look at it from any angle,the friend zone is a bad place to be,and girls really need to be careful cos you don't know who you might hurt,you always complain that guys are heartless for breaking your heart but what about those guys you have comfortably friend zoned because you feel they are not your type,don't you know your breaking their heart.And guys please sometimes just tell her because you never know she might start noticing you romantically,everyone's feelings matter.So before you become friends with that new guy be sure of what he really wants and don't lead him on.Anyway that's what "Juliansaid" and i hope you gonna believe it.